Just a thought......
Scientists and doctors have proven that we, as humans possess "muscle memory": the ability for our muscles to "remember" training, actions and functions therefore creating endurance when we participate in certain acts.
So when one consistently trains for a marathon, the muscles in the legs begin to "remember" the stress put on the body and in turn after consistent exposure to the repeated act begin to develop additional muscle to assist the body; again, this creates endurance.
Is there a such muscle memory of the heart when it comes to pain?
The same way our hearts are trained, from in the womb, to beat a certain amount of beats per minute to pump blood to the same locations-every minute, every hour, every day, for years on end. Does our heart, if repeatedly exposed to heartbreak develop a muscle memory? Memory to endure the next grief?
I've realized some people are just that nonchalant and "cold" when it comes to matters of the heart and compassion. It usually stems from repeated exposure to the same personal issue. However, I who has been brokenhearted- numerous times, and apparently even if the same individual hurts me its truly as if its the first offense it hurts so much.
Have others developed a muscle memory that I haven't?
Is my heart not..."strength" trained to its best ability?
How much more must I endure to develop the same "strength"?
I'm not sure...
Just something to think about...and possibly a training session I haven't prepared myself well for....
1 comment:
Grief is the necessary transitional process that we all must endure as we move on from that which we knew previously. There are myriad defense mechanisms that people employ in order to alleviate pain as they attempt to make sense of the situations with which they are faced & they are not without their potential drawbacks. Be it avoidance, deflection, compartmentalization, the assumption of a "cold" persona, drug/alcohol abuse, rebound relationships; etcetera...they all are variations on the same concept. The goal of each is simply to limit the amount of oneself that is exposed to pain. By utilizing these methods people often find that they are capable of maintaining a higher level of day to day functionality in the immediate aftermath of highly stressful events.
The pitfall being that for some it becomes a permanent crutch as they attempt to bypass dealing with the issue entirely & unfortunately this leads to an indefinite extension of the grieving process. A heart can neither be hurried nor move beyond its "ache" until it has had time to properly reflect upon the chapter of life that has ended. It is not until after this stage has fully transpired that we realize the world continues to turn, that we do hold worth & that there is indeed promise to be held in each & every tomorrow. With that, a new chapter begins...
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